This page is being constantly updated with new and interesting resources from across the internet. I’m going to start out by suggesting that if any of the sex/sexuality/gender/relationship terms on this site are unfamiliar, there is a great list of terms here.
Betty Martin has a range of wonderful resources including videos, worksheets and blog posts for individuals and couples. My favourite is the 3 minute game which really gets to the motivation behind actions and why we give or receive types of touch.
If you prefer audio, Cunning Minx has a lovely episode on teaching consent at any age.
I’ve already talked about Meg John Barker above, but their self care zine is truly epic.
Time with animals is known to improve your mental health. If you don’t have one that doesn’t mean you can’t get time with one. There are lots of sites that facilitate this, my favourite is borrow my doggy. It even offers insurance for borrowers.
There is a lot written about love languages, but I really like this concise piece about how they can transform your relationship.
Cunning Minx has a wonderful podcast called polyamory weekly, which will likely have topics of interest to monogamous people as well as those in non monogamous relationships. My favourite episodes include Date your Species, Designer relationships and what to do when you see gaslighting
Tikva Wolf is the creator of the fabulous Kimchi Cuddles, a fantastic site which explores poly, queer, and genderqueer issue in comic form. You will see a lot of her work on this site, so it won’t be the last time I link to her. I especially love this, this and this.
I find the concept of pods articulated by the Bay Area Transformative Justice Collective (BATJC) really interesting and useful. I will be writing something about how it could work in alternative sexuality communities in a blog post soon.
If you are finding the language of polyamory confusing you might like to see this glossary of terms.
Some resources I’ve put together:
You can download this is a brief exercise that reminds you to use your senses when you want to feel more grounded.
If you are thinking about writing a user manual, getting into a new relationship or just taking stock of where you are, this list of values may help.