For most of us, a part of life is having to do difficult things that in an ideal world we would rather aviod. The last post acknowledged that sometimes it can be impossible to avoid things we don't want to do. This one offers an exercise for working out how to look after yourself when … Continue reading Self consent: Self care when you have to do something hard.
I’ll admit it, I’ve been on something of a trash TV binge. Both of the show’s that I’ve been watching (My crazy ex girlfriend and Jane the Virgin) make jokes about people with list obsessions. Now, I’m a recent convert to the list as a way of getting stuff done, and they have upped my … Continue reading Connecting through lists
Maybe sometimes it is, but is that so bad? The word ‘selfish’ is nearly always used pejoratively to mean someone that is self obsessed, concerned with their own profit or pleasure and unconcerned about others. I’m not advocating naval gazing obsession with ourselves at all times, but I think spending energy focused on what brings … Continue reading Being kind to yourself: selfishness by another name?
If you’re anything like me, the first flush of new connection with someone is so exciting that you want to dive right in. Having said that, if you read the last article, you’ll know that I prefer to take things slowly. As a result, in some new relationships I’ve needed to find ways to slow … Continue reading 5 ways to slow down the start of a relationship
I haven't always been a fan of slow relationships - the joys of falling deeply in lust with people upon meeting them have not entirely escaped me. I love the tummy churning excitement of first dates, the 'did she like me too' questions and even the other person’s intrusion into my thoughts on a more … Continue reading 5 wonderful things about slow relationship beginnings
I discovered lube early in my romantic life, much to my delight. I found it wonderful in all kinds of sex, solo and partnered. I'd managed to avoid the messages that it was somehow a bad thing to need/want lube when having sex with other people, that is until I reached the queer community. Suddenly … Continue reading 5 reasons that lube should be part of your sex life
So, you didn't make a breakup plan, but your person broke up with you. What next? Here are 5 things to think about when your relationship has just ended: 1) Consider taking some time out of contact Lots of people want to stay friends with their ex, but in the immediate aftermath of the breakup … Continue reading Five things to do when you’ve just been dumped