Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.

A good friend of mine has been exploring her tantric side.  She met someone on a tantra course and really enjoyed spending time with him. She loved the long walks, reading books to him and increasingly intimate connection and cuddles. She loved holding hands, shared meals and conversations that included deep vulnerability. From the outset, … Continue reading Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.

Five ways to queer relationships.

There are a lot of norms when it comes to relationship, so naturally there are also lots of ways to queer your relationships. Other writers have covered many of them in much more details. I still think it is worth outlining some ideas. Who knows, it may inspire you! 1) Value, prioritise and categorise your … Continue reading Five ways to queer relationships.

Approaching relationships and connections with others queerly, and understanding them within the framework of queer theory or activism.

It isn't really possible to give a few line introduction to queer theory because it is a large and diverse field. Nevertheless there are a couple of concepts that are really important, and that matter to engaging in relationship queering. These are: 1) We are raised with particular ideas of what constitutes maleness, femaleness and … Continue reading Approaching relationships and connections with others queerly, and understanding them within the framework of queer theory or activism.

Relationshipqueer

I don't know who coined the term 'relationshipqueer', but on hearing it the concept simply made sense. We are already graced with terms such as genderqueer and neuroqueer, expanding the range of queerness away from sexuality into gender and neurology. Relationshipqueer takes its place amongst these terms to label a way of doing relationships that … Continue reading Relationshipqueer

Five things I’ve learned and loved dating autistic women

I’m not exactly neuro-typical myself, but I test as very much not autistic. Nonetheless I seem to have a particular attraction to others who are also neuroqueer, and particularly women that are on the autistic spectrum.