Self consent: Self care when you have to do something hard.

For most of us, a part of life is having to do difficult things that in an ideal world we would rather aviod.  The last post  acknowledged that sometimes it can be impossible to avoid things we don't want to do. This one offers an exercise for working out how to look after yourself when … Continue reading Self consent: Self care when you have to do something hard.

Self consent: when we have to do things we don’t want to

Treating ourselves consensually isn’t always about avoiding the things our bodies say a loud ‘no’ to. Afterall, sometimes we just have to do things we don’t want to, and sometimes the alternative is more unappealing.  We can find things difficult and unpleasant and still give our informed consent to them. Nevertheless, working out that you’re … Continue reading Self consent: when we have to do things we don’t want to

Being kind to yourself: selfishness by another name?

Maybe sometimes it is, but is that so bad? The word ‘selfish’ is nearly always used pejoratively to mean someone that is self obsessed, concerned with their own profit or pleasure and unconcerned about others.  I’m not advocating naval gazing obsession with ourselves at all times, but I think spending energy focused on what brings … Continue reading Being kind to yourself: selfishness by another name?