Self Consent is the radical act of tuning in to & showing up for your needs, desires, limits and boundaries.
Self Consent is the radical act of tuning in to & showing up for your needs, desires, limits and boundaries.
Do any of these sound like you?
- You’re proud to be self contained and self reliant, but long for someone to help you as much as you help other people.
- You find yourself giving and giving and giving in relationships, until you get burned out and even resentful.
- You have lost touch with your own needs, wants or desires (or you end up this way in relationships) and sometimes don’t even know what you want or need.
- You take responsibility for other peoples feelings in your friendships and romantic or familial relationships and yours get lost.
- You’re a recovering people pleaser but haven’t yet worked out how to really stand up for yourself or what you want and need.
We know this struggle. We want to help you with it.
We know that there are lots of skills that can help! This course will focus on six key areas. Building each area will help participants to tune into their own needs, desires and limits and work out where they can change things to create more choice in their lives. We will encourage folks to notice their body sending them signals that are more about the past than the present, and how to discern the difference between familiarity and comfort as well as between danger and discomfort. We will also dive into how emotions and interpersonal interaction can get in the way of self consent and how we can address these challenges. These are the key areas of skill we think are most important:
We created our self-consent subscription because we wanted to build a community that wasn’t interested in:
Reinforcing harmful social norms including the myth that it is weak to ask for help or have needs.
Ignoring or overriding emotions, boundaries and signals from our bodies
Carrying on doing the same thing and expecting the result to be different
What they're saying:
WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE subscription?
Monthly MEETINGS
Live zoom classes on the second Wednesday of every month.
Learning materials
Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.
COMMUNITY
A community learn alongside you.
CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY
A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.
SKILLS
Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.
WHAT'S INCLUDED IN THE COURSE?
WEEKLY MEETINGS
Live classes.
Learning materials
Workbooks, videos, and podcasts to support your learning.
COMMUNITY
A group of other quirky queers and cultural renegades & their closest people to learn alongside you.
CHAT WITH THE COMMUNITY
A slack community where you can ask questions between sessions and share how things are working for you.
RELATIONSHIP TOOLS
Skills that give you more choices and control in your life.
Why should I work on self consent?
- A consensual relationship with yourself is the first step to authentic relating with others.
- You can connect more deeply with other people if you can honour your own emotions and needs and boundaries too.
- It can help you to feel less emotionally alone or lonely.
- It can help you not to burn out or burn down your relationships with friends, family, other loved ones and work..
READY to invest in changing your relationships with yourself?
FAQS
We mean this expansively and we will not be policing identities. Anyone that is LGBTQ, a sex worker/performer and/or consensually non-monogamous certainly fits within our community. Many of us are neurodiverse, and this often links to our experiences of queerness in other parts of our life. We particularly welcome and center neurodiverse folks!
We will do our best to make accommodations when we know what folks need. We are disabled folks ourselves and have experience of asking for accommodations to be made and we know that can be very difficult. We have worked to make the course as accessible as possible, and would love to know what you need to make it work for you.
No. This is a place for learning skills. We recognize how many of us live with trauma and aim to operate in a trauma informed way. We have some guidelines about topics we avoid during our time together to keep the focus on learning skills. We think it is essential to have chances to work with and process trauma, and believe that many of the skills we will learn together are helpful in stabilizing mental health, which may make working with trauma in other spaces more effective.
A way of centering a consensual relationship with yourself in your life. Recognising your desires, limits and boundaries and attending to them like they matter. Making choices based on what you value, want and need, rather than subjugating yourself and focusing primarily on the requests and demands placed upon you by others (or social/familial norms).