Creating spaces for quirky queers and cultural renegades to learn together. We’re passionate about helping people to build the skills they need to live their best lives. 


Creating spaces for quirky queers and cultural renegades to learn together. We’re passionate about helping people to build the skills they need to live their best lives. 

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We have all come to this work recognising that the world has too few supportive spaces for people like us. We come from a variety of perspectives, some of us are trained counsellors or therapists, others are coaches or peer educators. Between us we have decades of experience!

What makes learning with us different?


We walk the walk.

We use the skills and tools we teach in our own lives & only teach them if we think they work. That doesn’t mean every skill or tool works for every one of us, nor that we think they will work for every one of you. It does mean we think you’ll find MOST of them useful and that you’re the best person to decide what works for you.

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We belong to the communities we serve.

We center quirky queers and cultural renegades in all the work that we do.


We learn collaboratively.

We learn in community – meaning that we learn from each other, from you and from working through the skills and tools we teach with each other.



Dr. Sophia Graham (she/her)

Dr Sophia Graham is an academic turned therapist who started learning and then teaching DBT skills in 2016. She has facilitated a group for queer disabled folks that has been running almost all of that time & is immensely grateful to that group for helping her to learn the skills more deeply and shift her approach to many of them. She loves that DBT recognises the negative impact of systemic oppression and oppressive societal norms on our mental health and experience of life. It encourages us to recognise that our distress is caused, but that doesn’t mean we are helpless in the face of it. 

Self Consent is her passion project – and the work she finds most personally challenging, too. A wise friend once told her “your mess is your message” and she is living proof of concept (thanks Meg John Barker). 

Sophia is a settled, white, queer, disabled, consensually non monogamous, survivor presently living on unceded Massachusett land & going through an immigration process. She is a professional member of The Association of Somatic and Integrative Sexologists (ASIS) and complies with their ethical code. She enjoys regular professional development, particularly around DBT skills, gender and sexual diversity, consensual non-monogamy, out of control sexual behaviour, consent, sex work and neurodiversity.

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Cat McGrath (they/them)

Cat McGrath is a trainee Education Psychologist with many years of experience working with children and families. They have taught emotional resilience skills drawn from mindfulness, CBT and DBT one to one, in schools, and to groups of adults. They live in a queer collective in a gorgeous Irish town. They are a white, chronically ill, agender, non-monogamous, queer that just loves to call out the patriachy.

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Fiona Stewart

Fiona Stewart is a coach with decades of experience helping people to learn new skills to communicate more effectively. She has a particular passion for the interpersonal effectiveness skill set and teaches it with special enthusiasm. She lives just outside of Dublin, Ireland and regularly visits Cobweb the greyhound. Fiona feels most connected to our performer clients and will often co-facilitate those groups.  


Bunny Wilder

Bunny Wilder (they/them) has been learning and using DBT skills since 2015, and teaching DBT as a peer since 2017. They are a white settler living in so-called British Columbia on the unceded territory of the xʷməθkʷəy̓əm (Musqueam), Sḵwx̱wú7mesh (Squamish), and Sel̓íl̓witulh (Tsleil-Waututh) Nations. Neurodivergent, bisexual, and single parent to a neurodivergent child, Bunny is particularly passionate about sharing DBT with other neurodiverse & queer folks and enjoys finding ways to make the skills more accessible for people from a variety of backgrounds. In their downtime they enjoy video games, organizing, and reading queer lit.


Sarah co-facilitates DBT skills groups with Sophie. She also works with individuals in her counselling practice, having trained for two years in integrative counselling. She is undertaking further training at the moment in sexological bodywork, a form of therapeutic touch work for people who may have difficulties around some aspects of sex or who want to expand their capacity for pleasure. She brings this bodywork knowledge to her counselling practice, offering people tools to increase their somatic awareness and sense of safety.

Sarah enjoys group work because it helps in resisting the idea that our struggles are caused by individual psychological defects which require cure. Identifying the ways in which social and cultural systems cause us harm is central to her work. She believes that therapy should be a practice for visioning collective transformation rather than fixing broken individuals.

Sarah is a white, non-disabled, queer cis woman. Her pronouns are she/her.

What they're saying ...

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