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Learning self consent by building skills

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Seeing self consent as a set of skills that you can develop allows for the possibility that you can change your own self knowledge and response. Here are some skills to start with

How google contacts (and basically all other electronic contact lists) makes life harder for trans folks

This post is written to cis folks, because most trans people (particularly those people who have changed their names) are already familiar with what is in it and, honestly, it’s pretty upsetting.  Many people I love are trans. Some of them have changed or are changing their names. This is a huge and emotional step …

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Why DBT skills are better than work on self esteem for your interpersonal relationships.

Have you ever found yourself drifting into unwanted patterns in friendships and romantic relationships because you just ‘go with the flow’? Found yourself at breaking point, having big reactions to things that weren’t a big deal in the past? Restoring to threats and ultimatums to get your way?  Or just disappearing and accepting that you …

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New Relationship Anxiety

New relationship anxiety is a common yet rarely discussed feature of early relationships. Find out whether it affects you.

User Manuals and trauma

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One of the joys of writing a User Manual is having one place that stores lots of information about who you are and how you do relationships. If you want a basic introduction to the idea Meg John and Justin have put together this really helpful zine & I highly recommend it. One of the …

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