A period of adjustment
How has this pandemic changed your perspective on socialising? Has it affecting what you want to do? With whom? How you feel after?
mindfulness
De-escalating your distress during a break
We take breaks when we are very upset to down-regulate our emotions. The whole purpose of the break is to reduce the intensity of your emotional activation because that makes it much more likely that you can have a constructive conflict with the other person. Unfortunately, lots of us weren’t taught how to do this …
Three tips for managing the anxiety of an empty diary
Over the last two weeks, lots of my clients have been telling me that they are having trouble with the change of pace that has been forced on every one that isn’t an ‘essential’ worker. For many people, this means moving from a 9-5 routine to having enormous amounts of free time, but no activities …
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5 thoughts about polyamory and the COVID-19 pandemic
** Written in mid March 2020, but now I read it back in December 2020 it is still relevant! I guess I’m a little late to the party in writing this, since the outbreak has been ongoing for some months now with closed borders and lockdowns happening in some countries, but I thought I’d add …
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Three exercises for noticing small emotions
Historically, I wasn’t very good at noticing emotions when they are small. In fact, for the longest time I really only noticed emotions when they became too overwhelming to ignore. This was not an effective strategy. It led to really painful interpersonal conflict and meant I spent a lot of time running away from emotional …