5 thoughts about polyamory and the COVID-19 pandemic

I guess I’m a little late to the party in writing this, since the outbreak has been ongoing for some months now, but I thought I’d add my two cents as a sex and relationship educator.  1. Poly folks already know that illnesses spread within networks, constellations and polycules. So, I feel like I’m already … Continue reading 5 thoughts about polyamory and the COVID-19 pandemic

5 things to do to be compassionate with yourself in emotional crisis. 

  The last post talked about why it can be useful to directly address your distress rather than avoiding it or trying to fix the thing that brings the distress up. I think there are a lot of good reasons, but the most important one for me is that it is just not very effective … Continue reading 5 things to do to be compassionate with yourself in emotional crisis. 

Working towards self-compassion when emotionally distressed

  Working with intense emotions can be really tricky because, frankly, it is difficult to remember when you're really distressed that you have skills, effective coping mechanisms, and the ability to get through an emotional crisis. This post is all about why self-compassion is a good idea when you are really distressed, and the next … Continue reading Working towards self-compassion when emotionally distressed

Three exercises for noticing small emotions

Historically, I wasn’t very good at noticing emotions when they are small. In fact, for the longest time I really only noticed emotions when they became too overwhelming to ignore. This was not an effective strategy. It led to really painful interpersonal conflict and meant I spent a lot of time running away from emotional … Continue reading Three exercises for noticing small emotions

Working with emotional activation

In the last post, I talked about taking your emotional temperature, which is something I try to practice most days because it isn’t something that comes naturally to me. Nevertheless, I find it invaluable in helping me to notice and work with my emotions. As I have practised noticing my levels of emotional activation, I … Continue reading Working with emotional activation

Taking your emotional temperature

So, I’ve been spending more and more time feeling into my emotions, and I’ve come to the conclusion that the way I was taught to understand emotions as a younger person was dangerously wrong. You see, I was taught that emotions could be understood on a scale from sad to happy (and that you should … Continue reading Taking your emotional temperature

5 reasons I love Dialectic Behaviour Therapy skills training for marginalised clients

Dialectic Behaviour Therapy (DBT for short) is an approach that works with people on developing psychological skills that they can use in their day to day lives. Most people have three elements to their DBT work. These are skills training, 121 psychotherapy and between-session coaching. In this article, I am just focusing on the skills … Continue reading 5 reasons I love Dialectic Behaviour Therapy skills training for marginalised clients