Shame, blame, and ‘should’s’ tend to creep in when we compare ourselves unfavourably with others. Learn how to transform these feelings and find the desire under them.
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Have you ever found yourself drifting into unwanted patterns in friendships and romantic relationships because you just �go with the flow�? Found yourself at breaking point, having big reactions to things that weren�t a big deal in the past? Restoring to threats and ultimatums to get your way? Or just disappearing and accepting that you
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We take breaks when we are very upset to down-regulate our emotions. The whole purpose of the break is to reduce the intensity of your emotional activation because that makes it much more likely that you can have a constructive conflict with the other person. Unfortunately, lots of us weren�t taught how to do this
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Over the last two weeks, lots of my clients have been telling me that they are having trouble with the change of pace that has been forced on every one that isn�t an �essential� worker. For many people, this means moving from a 9-5 routine to having enormous amounts of free time, but no activities
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** Written in mid March 2020, but now I read it back in December 2020 it is still relevant! I guess I�m a little late to the party in writing this, since the outbreak has been ongoing for some months now with closed borders and lockdowns happening in some countries, but I thought I�d add
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