Working with your values in conflict

Many forms of psychotherapy suggest that people work with their own values to build a fulfilling life. Both Acceptance and Commitment therapy and Existential psychotherapy are particularly built around the idea that your own core values form an important foundation to creating a life worth living. Despite having a lot of time for these approaches, … Continue reading Working with your values in conflict

Mindful tooth brushing

I’m not a huge fan of brushing my teeth. I’ve found it boring and uncomfortable - probably because it has such intense sensations to it that I can’t avoid being in my body to feel them. In my move from avoiding sensations to embracing them, I decided that daily uncomfortable physical experiences could help me … Continue reading Mindful tooth brushing

Practicing awareness of sensations

For a long time, I found it really difficult to identify feelings in my body. If I looked for emotions I would find a tight ball at the top of my diaphragm, but giving it a label was impossible. I could be happy, scared, angry, excited, anxious or embarrassed and the same ball sat in … Continue reading Practicing awareness of sensations

Sexual permission slip

Both Ecstasy is Necessary by Barbara Carrellas and Healing Sex by Staci Haines talk about the concept of a sexual permission slip. Given our culture around sex and consent, you might think that this would be a document written to outline what acts you give others permission to engage in with you, but you’d be … Continue reading Sexual permission slip

Being kind to yourself: selfishness by another name?

Maybe sometimes it is, but is that so bad? The word ‘selfish’ is nearly always used pejoratively to mean someone that is self obsessed, concerned with their own profit or pleasure and unconcerned about others.  I’m not advocating naval gazing obsession with ourselves at all times, but I think spending energy focused on what brings … Continue reading Being kind to yourself: selfishness by another name?

Acquiring a diagnosis

I recently acquired a diagnosis for a lifelong physical impairment. It has me reflecting on how I have previously dealt with the emotional and psychological elements of being diagnosed. Obviously, this differs greatly depending on how drawn out the process is, how medicalised it is, your own predisposition towards the medical establishment, how much you … Continue reading Acquiring a diagnosis

Working with intrusive thoughts

It is all too easy to get caught up in an endless loop of thinking about things, particularly if you are feeling anxious, depressed or lonely.  These might be thoughts about a social situation or event, career plans, a mistake that just keeps playing on your mind or even persistent self-criticism.  Thoughts and emotions can … Continue reading Working with intrusive thoughts

5 ways to address depression, apathy and staying in bed

Anyone that has experienced a significant bout of depression is probably all too aware of just how difficult it can be to do seemingly simple things like getting out of bed, showered and dressed. Bed can feel like the one place that you're in control of. It can give a sense of comfort. Frankly, the … Continue reading 5 ways to address depression, apathy and staying in bed