Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.

A good friend of mine has been exploring her tantric side.  She met someone on a tantra course and really enjoyed spending time with him. She loved the long walks, reading books to him and increasingly intimate connection and cuddles. She loved holding hands, shared meals and conversations that included deep vulnerability. From the outset, … Continue reading Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.

Approaching relationships and connections with others queerly, and understanding them within the framework of queer theory or activism.

It isn't really possible to give a few line introduction to queer theory because it is a large and diverse field. Nevertheless there are a couple of concepts that are really important, and that matter to engaging in relationship queering. These are: 1) We are raised with particular ideas of what constitutes maleness, femaleness and … Continue reading Approaching relationships and connections with others queerly, and understanding them within the framework of queer theory or activism.

Five things I’ve learned and loved dating autistic women

I’m not exactly neuro-typical myself, but I test as very much not autistic. Nonetheless I seem to have a particular attraction to others who are also neuroqueer, and particularly women that are on the autistic spectrum.