In the heat of a disagreement, your body’s alarm system, the amygdala, often takes the driver’s seat. It floods your system with stress hormones, preparing you for ‘fight or flight.’ This physiological response is incredible when facing a physical threat, but it’s a disaster when you’re trying to resolve a complex conflict with another human […]
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Conflict is an inevitable part of any long-term relationship, but the way we navigate it is what determines the health and longevity of our connection. When discussions escalate into shouting matches or stony silence, the root problem is often not the issue itself, but a state of dysregulation. To transform conflict from a destructive force
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There’s a moment—quiet, profound, almost sacred—when you realize you’re no longer the only one in the room who thinks the way you do. For neuroqueer folks who have spent years feeling like they’re speaking a different language, this discovery of authentic community represents one of life’s most transformative experiences. The journey to finding your neuroqueer
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This post is written to cis folks, because most trans people (particularly those people who have changed their names) are already familiar with what is in it and, honestly, it�s pretty upsetting.� Many people I love are trans. Some of them have changed or are changing their names. This is a huge and emotional step
One of the joys of writing a User Manual is having one place that stores lots of information about who you are and how you do relationships. If you want a basic introduction to the idea Meg John and Justin have put together this really helpful zine & I highly recommend it. One of the
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