Over the last two weeks, lots of my clients have been telling me that they are having trouble with the change of pace that has been forced on every one that isn’t an ‘essential’ worker. For many people, this means moving from a 9-5 routine to having enormous amounts of free time, but no activities … Continue reading Three tips for managing the anxiety of an empty diary
I guess I’m a little late to the party in writing this, since the outbreak has been ongoing for some months now, but I thought I’d add my two cents as a sex and relationship educator. 1. Poly folks already know that illnesses spread within networks, constellations and polycules. So, I feel like I’m already … Continue reading 5 thoughts about polyamory and the COVID-19 pandemic
The last post talked about why it can be useful to directly address your distress rather than avoiding it or trying to fix the thing that brings the distress up. I think there are a lot of good reasons, but the most important one for me is that it is just not very effective … Continue reading 5 things to do to be compassionate with yourself in emotional crisis.
Working with intense emotions can be really tricky because, frankly, it is difficult to remember when you're really distressed that you have skills, effective coping mechanisms, and the ability to get through an emotional crisis. This post is all about why self-compassion is a good idea when you are really distressed, and the next … Continue reading Working towards self-compassion when emotionally distressed
Historically, I wasn’t very good at noticing emotions when they are small. In fact, for the longest time I really only noticed emotions when they became too overwhelming to ignore. This was not an effective strategy. It led to really painful interpersonal conflict and meant I spent a lot of time running away from emotional … Continue reading Three exercises for noticing small emotions
In the last post, I talked about taking your emotional temperature, which is something I try to practice most days because it isn’t something that comes naturally to me. Nevertheless, I find it invaluable in helping me to notice and work with my emotions. As I have practised noticing my levels of emotional activation, I … Continue reading Working with emotional activation
So, I’ve been spending more and more time feeling into my emotions, and I’ve come to the conclusion that the way I was taught to understand emotions as a younger person was dangerously wrong. You see, I was taught that emotions could be understood on a scale from sad to happy (and that you should … Continue reading Taking your emotional temperature