Think you have a problem with a metamour? Actually, it might be closer to home...
A good friend of mine has been exploring her tantric side. She met someone on a tantra course and really enjoyed spending time with him. She loved the long walks, reading books to him and increasingly intimate connection and cuddles. She loved holding hands, shared meals and conversations that included deep vulnerability. From the outset, … Continue reading Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.
If you’re anything like me, the first flush of new connection with someone is so exciting that you want to dive right in. Having said that, if you read the last article, you’ll know that I prefer to take things slowly. As a result, in some new relationships I’ve needed to find ways to slow … Continue reading 5 ways to slow down the start of a relationship
I haven't always been a fan of slow relationships - the joys of falling deeply in lust with people upon meeting them have not entirely escaped me. I love the tummy churning excitement of first dates, the 'did she like me too' questions and even the other person’s intrusion into my thoughts on a more … Continue reading 5 wonderful things about slow relationship beginnings
The last post talked about relationship makers and dealbreakers – things that are pretty cut and dry. This post is about the desires, preferences and minor annoyances that you can have much more flexibility about. There is the squee factor - those things that make you wobbly in the knees and the grit factor - … Continue reading The skill of partner selection part 2 – the wooly bit
I spent time last weekend with someone that was going on some first dates. Jamie had a few disastrous relationships of late, and was trying not to repeat the mistakes that he had made. We had a conversation about how you can do that, and I thought I'd share a few thoughts here. Given the huge … Continue reading The skill of partner selection part 1 – the clear cut bit
Different people have really different desires when it comes to dating, so getting what you want can be a challenge. My cousin and I are perfect examples of people that are on the opposite ends of a spectrum when it comes to dating interests. I am exclusively interested in non-monogamy, and at the moment I … Continue reading Getting what you want from dating: the why question