Many forms of psychotherapy suggest that people work with their own values to build a fulfilling life. Both Acceptance and Commitment therapy and Existential psychotherapy are particularly built around the idea that your own core values form an important foundation to creating a life worth living. Despite having a lot of time for these approaches, … Continue reading Working with your values in conflict
So, as you know NRE is exciting, but it can also burn down your life if you feed the flames too much. If you’re someone that is contemplating seeking new partners, then you’re in an excellent position to work out some guidelines for yourself that keep your action in line with your own values. I … Continue reading How to stop feeding new relationship energy
New relationship energy is so intoxicating that it can take over your life - for all the reasons I talked about in the last post. The person you just met can feel like the love of your life. “The One”. Someone you can’t live without. Parting from them can be intensely painful. A few of … Continue reading What are the signs NRE could be a problem?
New relationships energy, also talked about as NRE, is the emotional experience at the beginning of a sexual and/or romantic relationship. While the term is most popular in poly communities, it is also a feature of the start of most monogamous relationships. It includes heightened emotional and sexual excitement, and sometimes obsessive thoughts and urges … Continue reading What is new relationship energy?
This series talks about different ways to start negotiating sex, kink and sensuality.
If you did the first exercise in this series, you probably noticed that there were some relationships that you wanted to be closer than they currently are. Perhaps you would like more time with the other person, maybe you want to do more things with them. Some people might be work colleagues that you would … Continue reading Intentional relationships 3: deepening more distant relationships
The circumstance in which you start a new relationship with a friend, work colleague or lover is filled with a whole lot of chance. Even if you are a person that is intentionally creating opportunities to meet people with similar values/interests to form relationships with (like going to munches, board game meets, parent groups, church) … Continue reading Intentional relationships 2 – creating opportunities for new connections
Relationships can be as much a matter of chance as intention. After all, your oldest friend is likely someone you met because your parents knew each other, you lived in the same street or went to the same primary school. Meeting someone and establishing a new connection depends on being in the right space, at … Continue reading Intentional relationships: An introduction
Meeting metamours can be wonderful, scary, heartwarming, anxiety producing and all kinds of other things. How you feel about it is likely affected by the kind of relationship that you are in, how secure you are feeling and what you have heard about the other person. Before you make plans to meet up, it is … Continue reading Things to consider when meeting your metamour
Think you have a problem with a metamour? Actually, it might be closer to home...