Self-consent is the radical act of showing up for your own needs, desires, limits and boundaries. In a world where we are often encouraged to discount and ignore our own needs and boundaries, it can be hard to embrace them and even advocate for ourselves. For many of us, the default setting is either a relentless […]
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The “yes/no/maybe” list is a cornerstone of safe and consensual exploration, a vital first step in assessing compatibility with a potential partner. It’s a great way to put your activities on the table, to see if you’re broadly on the same page. But let’s be honest: a checklist, by its nature, is only a starting
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In the heat of a disagreement, your body’s alarm system, the amygdala, often takes the driver’s seat. It floods your system with stress hormones, preparing you for ‘fight or flight.’ This physiological response is incredible when facing a physical threat, but it’s a disaster when you’re trying to resolve a complex conflict with another human
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Conflict is an inevitable part of any long-term relationship, but the way we navigate it is what determines the health and longevity of our connection. When discussions escalate into shouting matches or stony silence, the root problem is often not the issue itself, but a state of dysregulation. To transform conflict from a destructive force
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There’s a moment—quiet, profound, almost sacred—when you realize you’re no longer the only one in the room who thinks the way you do. For neuroqueer folks who have spent years feeling like they’re speaking a different language, this discovery of authentic community represents one of life’s most transformative experiences. The journey to finding your neuroqueer
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