Over the next few weeks, I will be posting a range of ways to start negotiating what you want from kink, sex, and sensuality with the people you are doing those things with. These posts are meant to help you find different options for talking about desires, limits, context, and sexuality. None of them will work for everyone, and that is why I invite you to take a pick and mix approach to the suggestions. Use what works between you, leave the ones that aren’t for you alone.
Just to give you a flavor of what is coming, the posts are likely to include titles such as:
- Start with watching porn
- Read erotica together
- Share yes/no/maybe lists
- Make your own sexy/kinky venn diagram
- Start with how you want to feel
- Start with the context
- Start with erotic risks
- Write a story
- Start with the wheel of consent
- Start with what feels safest
Do you have any ideas that you’d add to my list of starting points?