It is impossible to negotiate sex, kink or sensuality without a degree of emotional risk and sharing porn with a partner is no exception. Telling someone else that you are into particular sexual or kinky activities can be scary and difficult, so however you decide to do it, give yourself some self-care around it. More … Continue reading Negotiating sex – start with porn
This series talks about different ways to start negotiating sex, kink and sensuality.
A good friend of mine has been exploring her tantric side. She met someone on a tantra course and really enjoyed spending time with him. She loved the long walks, reading books to him and increasingly intimate connection and cuddles. She loved holding hands, shared meals and conversations that included deep vulnerability. From the outset, … Continue reading Just because your desires and expectations are more commonplace, doesn’t mean they are more valid than mine.
Having sung the praises of lube in the last post, it seems a good idea to talk about the different kinds and what to look for. Most people are aware of water and silicone based lubricants. These are great for a range of situations, but there are also some people that prefer to use oil … Continue reading The many flavours of lube
I discovered lube early in my romantic life, much to my delight. I found it wonderful in all kinds of sex, solo and partnered. I'd managed to avoid the messages that it was somehow a bad thing to need/want lube when having sex with other people, that is until I reached the queer community. Suddenly … Continue reading 5 reasons that lube should be part of your sex life
I wrote a few weeks ago about the wevibe4 and that company's intrusions into the sex lives of its customers. I thought that recording data about when and for how long people were having sex with a particular sex toy was about as bad as it got, but it turns out that I was wrong. … Continue reading Hackable sex toys?
The focus on health in relation to sex has got inextricably linked with two things. Not getting a transmittable infection and not getting pregnant. But these things should not be the limit of what sexual health is all about. So, why do we think they are?
What an excellent question to be considering. One of my people sent me this article, which talks about how the company Sexy Liberation is giving women free sex toys (sadly only in the US). The premise is that women experience fewer orgasms than men. Considerably fewer, particularly during partnered sex. The company wants women to … Continue reading Can free sex toys fix the orgasm gap?
Content warning: mention of sexual violence and consent violation Unbeknownst to me someone has been spying on my sex life - and they might have been spying on yours too. We-vibe created what looked to be an excellent entry in to the world of long distance relationships when they developed their we-vibe 4. It is … Continue reading How private is your sex life?